Ramana Maharshi - How to Avoid Grief of Loved One death

Question : If some one we love dies, it causes grief. Should we avoid such grief by either loving all alike or not loving at all?
Ramana Maharshi - If someone we love dies, it causes grief to the one who continues living. The way to get rid of grief is not to continue living. Kill the griever, and who will then remain to grieve? The ego must die. That is the only way. The two alternatives you suggest amount to the same. When all are realised to be the one Self, who is there to love or hate?